tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1235502677257882577.post50071236531805980..comments2024-02-01T02:51:43.854-08:00Comments on Sometimes it's hard: Because she's minestory girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16876607625116932174noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1235502677257882577.post-68900576399852427912011-09-13T11:57:43.298-07:002011-09-13T11:57:43.298-07:00Oh, heartbreak. I struggle with this too. He might...Oh, heartbreak. I struggle with this too. He might totally choose something that wouldn't be top of my list for him, but I'm starting now with trying to be okay with that. ;) What I want most is for him to be happy, but I do want him to do *something.* If he turns out to be a drifter, his mama will be a little cranky. Hmm, clearly I have work to do...Robin | Farewell, Strangerhttp://farewellstranger.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1235502677257882577.post-72527054437260188542011-09-09T16:03:16.849-07:002011-09-09T16:03:16.849-07:00My thought on this subject is this. My job as a m...My thought on this subject is this. My job as a mother is to help nurture the person they are suppose to be in this world, NOT the person anyone else THINKS they should be. <br /><br />You will tell your daughter that you love her no matter what just by being supportive of her. You are a wonderful mother, I have no doubt she will know all that you have written here today, and then some.Hopes@Staying Afloat!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04394821620148448570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1235502677257882577.post-63094672909290223022011-09-08T21:51:31.556-07:002011-09-08T21:51:31.556-07:00You're a wonderful mom. I think these worries ...You're a wonderful mom. I think these worries are natural as a parent. Maybe you should write her a letter and tell her that?Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13034271381748240025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1235502677257882577.post-45019263139026261412011-09-08T20:48:56.422-07:002011-09-08T20:48:56.422-07:00you are a great mama to be thinking about these th...you are a great mama to be thinking about these things in this way. wishing for her emotional security as she grows in both big and small ways. Loved this insight into your life :)Jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06666555088992266185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1235502677257882577.post-10440779195413043842011-09-08T20:18:42.282-07:002011-09-08T20:18:42.282-07:00My parents like to tell me that when I was a baby,...My parents like to tell me that when I was a baby, I was "slow" to talk and walk. But when I finally decided to talk, I spoke in sentences. They would also catch me standing alone when I thought nobody was looking, until I was ready to show them I could walk. All my life, I've been an observer, being careful to learn everything I can before jumping in and embarrassing myself (athough I still embarrass myself plenty).<br /><br />I'm not saying your Baby Girl will be like that, because she is her own person and will do her own thing. But as long as she is given the opportunity to do all she needs to do in her own time, and you are right there to help and encourage her along the way, she will know she can count on you to love her for whoever she is, and will be.<br /><br />But it sounds to me like you already know all that!mammacockatoohttp://blogs.twocockatoos.info/butterfly.phpnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1235502677257882577.post-81671811641106464132011-09-08T17:52:52.429-07:002011-09-08T17:52:52.429-07:00I struggle with this a lot with my kids (not my ba...I struggle with this a lot with my kids (not my baby yet, but my big girls). My husband and I both did very well academically. I want my girls to do well, but I don't want to pressure them so much that they think we'll feel differently about them if they're not "smart enough." My daughters are 10 and 7, and my oldest just isn't as motivated academically as my younger one is so far. It's so hard to deal with the differences and find the right balance as far as how much to push to motivate, but not make them feel like it's the most important thing to us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1235502677257882577.post-35733176189363231602011-09-08T17:25:03.073-07:002011-09-08T17:25:03.073-07:00I just had this discussion over the weekend. Or a...I just had this discussion over the weekend. Or a similar one. What if Donut doesn't want a "practical" career? What if she wants to be involved in other things, not just academics? I know I'll love her regardless of those choices. The thing I worry about? The guilt. Like, if she's not a good student or smart, is that my fault?Rach (DonutsMama)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14029074046922966097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1235502677257882577.post-68333207903056346172011-09-08T14:02:08.331-07:002011-09-08T14:02:08.331-07:00You should write her a letter, and tell her that. ...You should write her a letter, and tell her that. Tell her your feelings, wishes, and hopes for her. <br /><br />I started a book when Nathan turned 1 with hand written letters that I hope to give him one day when he goes to college/gets married/other-important-thing. I don't know why I did it exactly. Maybe because I wish I had something like that from my mom. I just hope it gives him insight into where my head was, and what my feelings are for him. It's for me too, to look back on when things are difficult. <br /><br />I've got similar feelings as you do for Nathan, but I know that because I have those feelings I already am supporting him in becoming a smart, well rounded individual.beckykidhttp://blog.prismaticdesign.comnoreply@blogger.com