Thursday, January 26, 2012

And then the pancakes stuck (or, how I learned to stop worrying and love the pancakes)

So, I've been struggling again lately with a lot of anxiety. My thoughts race and I can't concentrate and I start to feel helpless.

It's frustrating because I feel like I can't focus and so can't do the kind of meaningful work I'd like to do. It's disappointing because I thought I was past this and don't want to feel like this again. It's scary because I can't control it and I worry that it's just going to be like this forever.

I spent the past 2 days trying to do everything right. I slept. I ate. I exercised. I went out. Yesterday, I met someone for coffee, did an exercise video, cleaned my bathroom, went for a walk with the baby, danced, played, ate salad for lunch, took my vitamins and fish oil, distracted myself with crossword puzzles and massive quantities of Sporcle. I read and did every anxiety tip I could find, and at the end of the day I just felt angry. And tired. And my butt hurt.

This morning, I decided to give myself grace. I stayed in my pajamas. And I made pancakes.

Except I forgot to grease the griddle and the pancakes stuck. Behold the string of irrational thoughts.

  • "This is so unfair. Why do these things always happen to me? Nothing ever goes right."
  • "I'm such an idiot. I can't believe I forgot to grease that. I always do stuff like that."
  • (Watch how the irrational thoughts come the target of the irrational thoughts. "Oh my gosh, I'm so whiny. And irrational. The pancakes are just stuck. Everything in my life is so good, I can't believe I'm complaining about this."
  • (For my next trick, I will beat myself up for beating myself up.)"Oh my gosh, it's no wonder I'm depressed and anxious. I keep trashing myself. I'm such an idiot."

Or. The pancakes stuck. I have to scrape them off. They aren't pretty. They still taste okay. It's frustrating that I have to clean this all off the pan now. Of course it is.

Let's eat pancakes.


  1. Love this. Great job turning your thoughts around. The is 3/4 of the battle :) Hope that you have a wonderful day, and that you keep up being good to yourself! You deserve it, and eventually it will help your anxiety I hope!

  2. Anxiety sucks! Negative self talk sucks even more! Good for you for working to change that self talk. I am proud of you.

    1. Oh and as a total aside . . . now I am totally thinking about pancakes. Yummy! ;)

  3. I've been having some very bad days myself. And why is it that when you are always on the verge of tears and then you go and burn dinner...that ALWAYS happens.
    I burnt a lentil stew to the bottom of my favourite pot.
    I hope that you feel better.

  4. You stopped and you recognized these thoughts. That's progress. I think everyone has these days too. And yes, they are very frustrating.