Friday, March 22, 2013

Dear fellow mom

Dear fellow mom  (or dad) (or mom-to-be) (or other human dwelling on this planet),

You, right now, are doing just fine.  It may not feel that way.  It usually doesn't.  But I assure you that the things you are doing right now are enough.  

That you are enough.

And that being enough?  Is enough.

(It's possible I need a thesaurus.  But that's a different point than the one I'm making today.)

I know that you're scared.  I'm scared.  I love you for being scared.   Here's the thing.  I love you for being imperfect too.  I love you for your weaknesses,  your vulnerability.  I love you when you're a hot mess, and I love you when it all comes together and you're afraid everyone will hate you for it.

It's okay to need help.  People won't think less of you for needing help.  This morning, other moms chased my two year old around while I nursed my baby. My first reaction was to be embarrassed, then to feel guilty.

The reaction that I settled on?


Man, it felt so much better.

And the truth is, when you ask me for help?  I don't think less of you.  I don't love you less.  I love you more.  If we don't give people the chance o help us, the chance to do something great and show how amazing it is to be connected?  We deprive them as much as we deprive ourselves.

Guys?  This is big.  I know I'm drinking the Brene Brown Koolaid, but this is really, really big.  What if we all decided to be glorious, beautiful, imperfect messes, and to give and accept help graciously?  Dude, that's a world I want to live in.

Viva the imperfect revolution.


  1. Isn't that an amazing realization? That by assigning shame to asking for help, we assign it to giving help, something that you and I both value so much.

    I'm glad you're drinking the koolaid!

  2. I really needed this this morning. Thank you for your fantastic post!

  3. I just started reading Daring Greatly yesterday, and I am so drinking that koolaid with you, my friend. I want to live in that world, too! Thank you for writing this so that others may join us! xoxo

  4. That's the world I want to live in too. Preach on.

  5. I love this. It takes a village, and we need help. It's impossible to chase after a two year old while nursing an infant.

  6. I love this, and I needed to read this today. Thank you.